Sometimes we meet new people purely by mistake. You come in contact though some strange workings of fate, and you simply click. It doesn't have to be a romantic click. It's just two personalities that fit together. And there's chemistry there.
But often it's not meant to go beyond those first few days. Why? Usually because both of you have different expectations from the relationship. And because you weren't together long enough to know each other well enough to cope with the parts of your personality that do not click. It doesn't work out because you haven't known each other long enough to trust blindly, and because both of you assume some things which turn out to be untrue.
I made a new friend. I thought we'd talk about work, but we didn't. We discussed Reality and Perception and Time, and our dreams. In the first three hours of our friendship. =)
It didn't turn into "Friends Forever". Because "Friends Forever" probably doesn't exist. But also because our realities were different. Our perceptions were colored by our individual experiences, our stand points. And we hadn't known each other long enough to be able to understand those stand points.
It didn't turn into "Friends Forever". But I'll miss my friend for a long time.
But often it's not meant to go beyond those first few days. Why? Usually because both of you have different expectations from the relationship. And because you weren't together long enough to know each other well enough to cope with the parts of your personality that do not click. It doesn't work out because you haven't known each other long enough to trust blindly, and because both of you assume some things which turn out to be untrue.
I made a new friend. I thought we'd talk about work, but we didn't. We discussed Reality and Perception and Time, and our dreams. In the first three hours of our friendship. =)
It didn't turn into "Friends Forever". Because "Friends Forever" probably doesn't exist. But also because our realities were different. Our perceptions were colored by our individual experiences, our stand points. And we hadn't known each other long enough to be able to understand those stand points.
It didn't turn into "Friends Forever". But I'll miss my friend for a long time.
5 comments:
i see a little confusion here, if personalities fit together, as chemistry is same. Then i believe there could be no different expectations from a relationship...
As i see this reality, its very clear, i think problem starts when we set expectation from something on our own, we perceive things and see things from the perspective we want to see... we should let go things on their own... and i believe they turn out the way we want them to.. if intentions are good and you are honest...
Very deep! Are you pointing out the fact that we've become more and more shallow, now?
Well,you are perhaps mixing things up between a click and a romantic click.The chemistry starts developing when there is romantic click ( as it normally happens between opposite sex ) but as far as click is concerned,there is nothing as such unless you know the person's thoughts.In that case,either way you go,it could turn into relationship forever.
For instance you are missing your new friend.What would you do next time you come across the same figure,MISS or wanna talk ??
I think "Friends Forever" exist. :)
The "expectations" I talk about are precisely the difference between a "click" and a "romantic click". One person wants a "romantic" relationship, the other does not. That's the difference in expectations. =]
MB, I don't really believe things turn out the way we "want to" if we let them go. But I have finally relaized that clinging on to things doesn't really help much either, so we're better off letting go.
M Shoaib Sheikh, trust me on this one: Everything has an expiry date, including friendship. =)
I'm not really talking about how shallow we've become. It's just one of those little twists in life. =]
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